desired state
(NOUN)
/dɪˈzaɪəd steɪt/
What if, instead of low sexual desire meaning something is wrong with us, we actually see it as a perfectly understandable response to what's happening in our lives?
See also: curiosity, pleasure, possibility, sexuality, self-discovery, wanting, becoming.
You’re here because something’s changed.
You don't want sex like you used to.
Maybe you WANT to want it, but you don’t know where to start….
So- let me help you make sense of what’s going on.
And offer you a pathway for where to begin.
Reclaiming Desire.
Our free mini-course on understanding sexual desire. 
The Five Elements.
All desire is interconnected- and the secrets for how to re-ignite it.
Personalised support to help you find your way.Coaching.
Hi, I’m Laura.
And I lost my sex drive too!
(*Sounds like the beginning of us introducing ourselves in some kind of rubbish secret support group- like a version of Fight Club where we’re just not interested in having any sex!)*
Ten years ago I woke up and realised I hadn’t wanted sex in a very long time.
I thought that there was something wrong with me- perhaps I was broken? I used to want sex, I used to enjoy it, but I felt so empty and disconnected that I wondered if I’d ever want sex again….
And this had a huge impact on my life. My confidence, my relationship, the connection to myself- even how alive I felt in general. So, I went looking for answers.
The journey to finding myself again (and a whole new sex education) has been life-changing. And now I want to shout from the rooftops about what I found…
Ten years later, I've read the books, followed the research, talked to experts, explored the psychology, questioned the advice and developed my own way of making sense of it all.
I created Desired State as the map I wish I’d had then- so that you can use it to transform your sex + love life too!
And I’m SO excited to share this with you.
